One of the more inspiring stores that Napoleon Hill mentions in his book ‘Think And Grow Rich’ is that of a man who wen in search of gold in the gold rush days in America. 

This man – an uncle of R.U Darby, went west to ‘DIG AND GROW RICH’.    He staked a claim and started to dig with a pick and a shovel.  It was tough going but his desire for gold was certain. 

After several weeks of digging he discovered the shining ore.  He now needed machinery to bring this to the surface as he had gone as far as he could manually.

He covered up his mine, and went back to his hometown of Williamsburg, Maryland to tell his relatives and some neighbours of his discovery.  Between them they got the money they needed for the  machinery.

The uncle and Darby  returned to the mine to resume digging with the newly purchased equipment.  The first car of ore that had been mined was shipped to a smelter where it proved that they had one of the richest mines in Colorado.    They only needed a few more of the same to be clear of their debts.  After that it would all be profits, profits, profits!!

Of course they continued drilling  until something happened!  The vein of Gold had suddenly vanished.  it seemed that they had hit the end and the gold was no more.  Desperately they continued to drill but they didn’t seem to be successful at picking up the vein of Gold again.

They decided to call it quits and sold the machinery to a junk man for a few hundred dollars.  Darby and his uncle took the train back home.

This ‘junk’ man wasn’t silly.  He called a mining engineer to have a look at the mine and do some calculating for him.  The engineer told him that the only reason that the project had failed was because the owners didn’t know anything about the ‘fault lines’. 

He advised him that the vein of gold should be some three feet from where the Darby’s had stopped drilling!  How rich did the junk man become?   He took in millions of dollars from that mine because he was clever enough to seek expert counsel before throwing his arms up in the air and giving up. 

How many times have we done this in our own lives?  How many times have we given up on our dream, our desire that is merely a few feet away because defeat overtakes us.  The easiest thing to do when the going gets tough is to QUIT.  This is what most do. 

Before success comes we are often met with defeat.  Are you going to quit and give up or look for that vein of gold?

What is your burning desire?

What sets people like Shaheen Jararghol in the video apart from anyone else?  How is it he has reached fame so early in life and some are still wandering like bits of driftwood in a river?

I am intrigued every time I see people who have ‘suddenly’ found fame and I see a definite pattern in all of them. People like Paul Potts and Susan Bolye who have also found instant fame through the famous television series Britain’s Got Talent, have all had the SAME common denominator. 

And it’s found within anyone who realizes their wildest dreams. 

The secret is in two words:  BURNING DESIRE.  Napoleon Hill, author of   “Think and Grow Rich” mentions this consistently throughout his book. 

However, what we may not often be aware of is the defeat or obstacles that some who have found success have had to deal with beforehand.

Napoleon Hill talks about the great Barnes  when he teamed up  with Thomas Edison who had absolutely nothing except the capacity to   “KNOW WHAT HE WANTED, AND THE DETERMINATION TO STAND BY THAT DESIRE UNTIL HE REALIZED IT”.

Napoleon Hill gives mention to this   “CONSUMING OBSESSION AND BURNING DESIRE”.   “DEFINITE DESIRE”  as he so often refers it.

How clear are we about what we want?  Is it definite?  Is it all you think about day and night? Is it the only thing you see in front of you when you wake up each morning.  Is it still there when you have been defeated so many times, when you have failed repeatedly? Is it always beconing you? 

Do you smell it?  Feel it?  Believe it with every fibre of your being?  Would you make whatever sacrifices for it you would need in order to achieve it? Would you work diligently for it as long as it required without giving up?

If you cannot see it, feel it and believe it then you will not get it. 

This is The Secret Formula in a nutshell so to speak, and if you take a moment to speak to anyone who has realized their dreams, it  did not merely happen from sheer luck but a desire they had planted like a seed in the ground that they nurtured and nourished consistently regardless of the odds. 

This is The Law Of Attraction at work as well.  For The Law of Attraction works like this:  it is a blind theory/universal law that works whether you choose to believe in it or not.  You attract what you think and feel.  And in doing this you create your own reality. 

When you limit your beliefs, you limit what you attract.  If you believe anything is possible then for you the sky is the limit.  This is the common denominator amongst the highly successful people and those who suddenly have their ultimate dreams realized.   The Law of Attraction is not a phenomenon, but more a law that has been existing since the beginning of time.  We have not known how to use it to our advantage!  Though some clearly do! 

And for those who do, they will not know how NOT to get everything they have dreamed about!

For the young 12 year old in the video above ( Shaheen Jaraghol) it was about choosing the RIGHT song that changed his life. 

What is your song?  Your greatest love, your greatest passion, your BURNING DESIRE?

A Woman To Inspire Us All

Hazel   is a dynamic EMPOWERED Woman.  Hazel is Mayor of Mississauga one of the largest cities in Canada and not only is the city DEBT FREE but has 700 million dollars in reserves!!!  This lady knows how to save her pennies!!

We can learn a great deal from this delightful wise woman, who is 88 years young, active, healthy, has her wits clearly in tact, governs a city, ice skates, not only does business but keeps the city out of debt and there is plenty of surplus  for ‘just in case’ and has been Mayor for 31 years.

Hazel is  an inspiration to women and men alike.

Why you can’t judge a book by its cover


Susan Boyle had a childhood dream since she was 12 years that she had always wanted to sing in front of a large audience.  She finally got her opportunity in this years  ‘ Britain’s Got Talent.’

The crowd could not help to react cynically when Susan announced to Simon Cowell that it has been her dream to be a professional singer – in fact to be as successful as Elaine Paige no less.

When asked by Simon Cowell “why hasn’t it worked out for you dear”  she replied ” because no-one has ever given me a chance before – so here’s hoping it will change”.

Too often we are judgemental and too assuming of ones capabilities or talents because of their appearances or the ‘package’ is not quite right and especially in the recording industry  ‘image is everything’.  This is what sells records – according to the recording label companies. 

However the truth is that surprises come in the most unexpected packages, and this is one case where one should not judge a book by its cover.  Susan sings from Les Miserables ‘ I dreamed a dream’ – a song that is quite befitting to her own personal story , her  dream,  to become as successful as Elaine Paige – and she will at that!

An Empowered Woman

Santo and Bree Calarco, father and daughter, tell their story of their mission work with orphans in South Africa. Email; rocsan7@bigpond.com Phone; +61404029822 .

Missionaries Santo and daughter Bree talk about an exceptional woman named Irene Moon, who is in her sixties who heads an orphanage in South Africa -which has no building as such, but takes care of children, the elderly and anyone who needs assistance.  As Santo points out in this very informative video, Irene does not expect handouts but he together with his daughter are working towards giving Irene and the orphanage a ‘hand-up’.   If anyone can help- please contact either Santo or Rochelle at the email above. 

Attracting Mr Right

One of the most frequent questions I get asked a great deal by women is ” why do I seem to attract the wrong kind of guy? And why can’t I attract Mr Right?”.

The Law of Attraction is always at work in our lives and when you have just come out of a bad or unhealthy relationship, you will need to ask yourself ” How have I attracted this into my life”?

For the person you are with at this moment, YOU have attracted into your life – be it Mr Wonderful or Loser!
Be certain that The Law Of Attraction is a Law that is impartial and it works whether or not you believe it is there. Belief has nothing to do with it.

One of the common denominators that the women who seem to keep attracting the wrong guy is that they all have a lack of self respect, self-confidence and poor self-esteem.

When a woman does not see her self as worthy, beautiful, attractive, confident, then she begins to ‘take what she can get’ so to speak. And I’ve seen this a lot. Some women will say quite often that “he made me feel this way, he made me feel ugly, he made me feel stupid, worthless, unattractive and so on”.
However, when someone makes you feel less than you are it is YOU who is giving your personal power away. No one can make you feel anything that you do not want them to. It is a choice. You can ALLOW someone to make you feel inadequate. You ALLOW someone to make you feel less than beautiful, intelligent and worthy.

The Law of Attraction is responding to your thoughts- what you think. This doesn’t mean that you are deliberately sending out messages that you deserve to be treated unfairly or poorly in your realtionship, however somewhere on a deeper level, you do not feel you worthy and hence you just get whatever lands in your lap.
The Law of Attraction will send you whatever you feel you are worthy of. Change the way you see yourself, respect who you are, nurture and take care of you body for YOU. Value the beautiful person that you are and most importantly LOVE yourself first.

Then notice that when you have made those inner changes within your own thinking the universe will send you the perfect match!

The Secret and The Law Of Attraction

I had always been aware of the Law Of Attractionthroughout most of my life and have used it since I was more or less a very small child. 

It was something that had been taught to me from my parents but more-so by my father.  I would always play ‘make-believe’ and as a young girl of about 5 or 6 years of age I already knew what I wanted to do – write!

I set this Law of Attraction in motion by activating it through games that I would play with my younger sister.  I did not have any toys and not for the lack of money but more-so because my parents did not see value in them.

I would take an empty biscuit cardboard box, turn it upside down, cut a small slit in the bottom, thread a piece of paper ( to simulate a typewriter), write the letters and numbers of the alphabet on the box in coloured crayons and away I would go, pretending to type.

It was not until I was in my late 20’s that I purchased a manual typewriter – the ones that still used ribbons and it was much later still until I could purchased an electronic typewriter. 

Of course when Rhonda Byrne’s ‘The Secret’ was aired in Australia a couple of years ago, I wasn’t sure what all the fuss was about- after all, the ideas of visualising what I wanted, thinking about what I wanted to attract into my life and feeling as if I already had it was nothing short of ‘natural’ to me. 

Fact is:   The Law Of Attraction is quite simply a law of nature.  Impartial and impersonal and indeed precise.  It gives you exactly what you ask for be it garbage or roses!

So how do we ensure that we get the roses and not the garbage? 

 Now that is another Secret- something for another post!!

You Get What You Think About

The Law of Attraction is something we see evidenced in our every day ordinary lives.  It is not something you need to believe in for it to work in your life.  It is quite simply a Law that IS.

To utilise the Law Of Attraction in your life, you need to understand it first.  For without this understanding of HOW it works, you can’t fully utilise it .  The Law Of Attraction responds to our thoughts – what we’re thinking.

so everything you have experienced thus far and what you attract into your life, you have done so and continue to do so through your own thoughts.  Even the experiences you seemingly don’t want to show up in your life do so because somewhere in your thinking you have drawn it into your life. 

Focusing on what you don’t want has as much attracting power as focusing on what you do want.  Have you ever thought about a job hated?  The more you thought about the job you hate going to, the more you thought about how desperately you wanted to get out of that job that you hated going to every morning,  the more your circumstances demanded that you stayed in that job?


Because focusing on what you disliked and didn’t want kept it ever so closer to you.  Whatever you don’t want will keep showing up in your life.  whatever you don’t like will keep re-appearing in your life.

So how do you change this?

Let us say for instance that  you don’t like your job, or hate it in fact.  This is where your thinking needs to change.  Remember that old adage ” what your resist persists?”.  Find a way to love your job- even if it isn’t the job of your dreams or where you want to be in 2 or 5 years from now.  Accept that you are where you are right at this moment.  Appreciate that it is for now providing you with a financial reward at the end of each week, or fortnight, or month. 

Be grateful you have a job where so many do not.  Once you have freed yourself the emotions of  disliking or hating your job start to visualise and think about what you would really love to do.  Have a plan.  Write it down.  Make a collage of pictures if it helps you to visualise where you want to be  in a year or so from now.

Think about your ideas, tell yourself that you will draw to yourself all the resources, people and situations that you need to help you fulfill your goals. 

Put all your attention to it.  And through doing this, you will draw it into your life.

Becoming A Detective Of Your Thoughts

I was watching an interview on You tube earlier today with Joe Vitale author of Zero Limits on Larry King Live.  Larry King asked Joe Vitale ” How do you clear negative self thoughts?”

He mentioned that there are many ways in which we could could this however one way is to ” become a detective of your own mental activity”.  That is:  to watch carefully and pay attention to the positive and negative thoughts that pop into our heads. We need to notice which makes make you feel good and which ones make you feel bad. 

Clearly, the ones that make you feel bad are the negative thoughts.  So what you need to do is notice the thoughts that make you fell good and as Dr Joe Vitale mentions ” You want to reach for the thoughts that feel good and you start to go in the direction of having more of those and going back to his statement about fundamental laws and psychology – you get more of what you focus on.  Focus on the positive thoughts and the negative ones will start to drop away or you won’t pay attention to them as much”.

Negative thought patterns have a tremendous impact on our lives.  If we are knee deep in problematic circumstances, then we have created them on an inner level and the only way to change that is to go within and change our thinking.  As Dr  Vitale mentions, we need to focus on positive thoughts more and more and as this happens more and more frequently  the negative ones begins to fall away and we don’t pay attention to them as much.

Remember, negative thoughts WILL manifest in your life as much as positive thoughts.  In choosing deliberately what you focus your thinking upon, you shape your life circumstances.  If you do not think much of yourself, then you are not much.  If you do not think you can, you won’t.  If you think you are useless, you are.  If you think you are not worthy or much, you’re not.  You are everything you think. 

Begin to change the way you think, and the way you think will change your life.

Divorce and NO sex with the ex!

Divorce is something that no one wants to face.  It’s a hard situation that many people have to find the strength to get through.  Sometimes there are hard feelings between the two couples and sometimes the couple will still get along very well. 

 It is difficult to tell what is going to happen and sometimes you just have to see how it goes. The ball is in your court and you need to make the best choices that you can.

One this is for sure; once you are divorced, you do not need to be intimate with your ex!  This isn’t something that is wise because of the issues that will come along with it.  You want to break your ties so that you are free and be able to move forward.

You will want to remain friendly with your ex and this could be for obvious reasons.  When things go a lot smoother, you will find it to be a lost easier to get things accomplished.  You really can kill them with kindness however you do not want to be so kind that your are jeopardizing your health and well being for any reason.

You don’t want to get involved with the complicity of having sex with your ex when you are trying to rebuild your life and create a better future for yourself.

When you are trying to rebuild your life, you want to do the right things.  You’ll need to make the right choices for you and your family so that you are not putting anyone’s well being at risk.  This will also include your ex.

When you are still carrying on an intimate relationship with you ex partner, you will find that you may be setting either one of you up for a very big fall. This is not something that you should be doing at this stage of the game.

A divorce is something that can be very complicated and when you are combining sex with you ex, you are only making the situation more problematic.  You need to ensure that you are severing these ties and making it very clear that you are not interested in this part of your life anymore.

You need to of course make sure of this before you file for divorce, but having a physical relationship is not the only thing that matters with a marriage.  You need to have all the factors there so that you can have a successful and fulfilling relationship that works for both of you.

There are so many things to worry about when you are trying to rebuild your life after a divorce.  You do not want to have to deal with too much when you already have so much on your plate.  You want to be careful and make the wisest decisions that you know you can make.  You have to be willing to let the physical side of your relationship go so that you can frree your mind and body up for the next chapter in your life.

There is so much life out there and when you are divorced, you are able to take it all on.  You should not be holding on to the past even if it is comforting at the time.  You want to get out there and find out WHO YOU ARE and what your own personal goals and dreams are in life. 

This is the only way that you can make your new life a huge success.  This is going to be worth the self-control that you have when it comes to refraining from having sex with your ex.