Rebuild Your Life After Divorce

Did you know how many women will actually want a different hair style when something major happens in their life?  And it is usually the very first thing they do before anything else when this happens.

Women will want to go to the hair salon once they have made that ‘announcement’ that she has split and has faced the situation.  She knows that once she has accepted that she is going through a divorce, she’ll need all the people who love  her around her and support her to help her rebuild her life and move on.

The first step she’ll take ( after the hair salon of course) is to work out who she can and cannot count on.  This is when her real friends stand out.  she needs to have the support of the people who reallycare about  helping her grieve and helping her finds ways to move on.  Most of her so-called friends may say that everything will be o.k and not to worry.  But when they allow your feelings to be written off like it doesn’t matter, they’re not friends at all. 

Once she has found the support and strength to move on, she  will feel the need to make changes- big changes.  She may want to change the color of her hair, change her wardrobe, change her behaviours.  She may want to try things that she never would have gotten  to do before.  She might also think about do things that she never dreamed of!!!

But it always goes back to the hair.  If she has never had short hair, well she may want to try that look.  When a woman cuts or dye’s her hair, she finds empowerment.  she will feel like she has control over herself and her life again.  The truth is that she always did have all the control……  she has the right to change, the right to do whatever it is that she wants, or find that makes her happy. 

But before she starts to let herself  go into a depression, she needs to start thinking about what has happened, what has changed, and what she would like to do as a result of.

Certainly there were many reasons that caused the split in the first place.  Over the years she probably gave up a lot.  She most likely changed because her partner encouraged her to become exactly what he wanted, but…………she is no longer in that relationship and she can now begin to do the things that she once loved.

 

Any woman who can go through a divorce and come out on the other end is a very strong person indeed.  Some women will collapse and fall into a deep depression. 

Go out and do something for yourself!

If you have always wanted to be a blond, give it a try.  If you have ever wanted to cut your hair – go for it!  Once you begin to do things that you normally would not have dared to do, you will find a liberating freedom.  The freedom to be yourself and to display your new found freedom in whatever way that you so choose!!

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6 Responses

  1. What a great article!! Thank you for sharing – and yessssss, hairstylist first thing LOL… then new wardrobe hehe 🙂

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  4. Stumbled upon your site tonight. I recently divorced my husband and sent him to jail. He was running a ponzi scheme to the tune of about 28MIL. I can tell you that you really can move on with your life. I have started writing my story on my own blog and i am truly amazed at how therapeutic it has been. If you ever need a guest blogger, let me know. I would love to. Your site is fantastic. Thank you for what you are doing!

    • Andrea, thank you so much for your comment about my site. I would be delighted to have you as a guest on my site. I’ll be in touch! Nancy

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