Surviving Relationship Break-Ups

Relationship Breakups

Relationship Breakups

Most have us have been there at least once……or twice….or three times….or more.   Personal experience has taught me that having some positive goals set up for yourself around this challenging time is a blessing!

It is far better to set yourself a list of ‘to do’ things as opposed to sitting in front of the phone hoping it will ring, or eating a box of candy followed by a tub or two of ice cream ( chocolate that is) in front of the television set and washing it down with a bottle or two of  Pinot Noir Chardonnay.  To say the least- it’s not good for you – though momentarily you may feel good.

Here are some simple steps that you might like take into consideration that I know have worked well for many.  And it doesn’t cost a cent!

STEP ONE:

Get out a notebook and in it write down some clearing out procedures like:

1.  Spring Clean the house

2.  Remove anything or everything that reminds you of the former partner ( except the kids!)

3.  Have a garage sale – you’ll feel productive and make some extra cash

4.  Re-arrange the furniture in the house- or throw out some of the  furniture.

In getting rid of and clearing out, you mentally make room for new things to come into your life.

STEP 2:

Write a list of all the things you still have to be grateful for regardless of what you think you have lost.  Focusing on what you have as opposed to what is missing is far more productive.  As well, in focusing on what is missing, more of the same continues to show up in your life. 

STEP 3:

Set up at least 10-15 minutes of ME time in your day.  Use this time for meditation, not just for relaxation, but a time when you can work on changing your past thinking habits – the thinking that led you to where you find yourself now.  Look at how you can change your thinking and introduce new  positive thoughts/beliefs to replace old negative thoughts/beliefs.

step 4:

Write a list of all the things you’ve wanted to do now that you don’t have anyone telling you what you can or can’t do! , like:

Climb Mount Everest

Go bungee jumping

Drop out of a plane ( parachute included!!)

Climb the Sydney Harbour Bridge

Write a book

Take Latin dancing classes

Stay out at your girlfriend’s place until late

Eat pizza for breakfast

And just plain re-invent yourself!

step 5:

Love yourself  even if no one else does. Remain in a state of Gratitude for what you do have.  Appreciate who YOU are, your own self worth and inner beauty.  Soon everyone else will see it.

 

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